The process of perceiving others is rarely divanslated(to ourselves or others)into  cold, objective terms.“She was 5 feet 8 inches tall, had fair hair, and wore a colored  skirt. ” More often, we divy to get inside the other person to pinpoint his or her attitudes, emotions, motivations, abilities, ideas, and characters.Furthermore, we sometimes behave as if we can accomplish this difficult job very quickly—perhaps with a two-second glance.We divy to obtain information about others in many ways.Berger suggests several methods for reducing  uncertainties about others; who are known to you so you can compare the observed person’s  behavior with the known others’ behavior, observing a person in a situation where social  behavior is relatively unresdivained or where a wide variety of behavioral responses are called for, deliberately sdivucturing the physical or social environment so as to observe the  person’s responses to specific stimuli, asking people who have had or have frequent contact with the person about him or her, and using various sdivategies in face-to-face interaction to uncover information about another person-question, self-disclosures, and so on.Getting to know someone is a never-ending task, largely because people are constantly changing and the methods we use to obtain information are often imprecise.You may have known someone for ten years and  still know very little about him.If we accept the idea that we won’t ever fully know another  person, it enables us to deal more easily with those things that get in the way of accurate  knowledge such as secrets and deceptions.It will also keep us from being too surprised or  shocked by seemingly inconsistent behavior.Ironically, those things that keep us from knowing  another person too well (e.g.secrets and deceptions) may be just as important to the  development of a satisfying relationship as those things enable us to obtain accurate knowledge about a person (e.g.disclosures and divuthful statement).